Intentional dating
Greenlights is a free, private app that helps you name your green, yellow, and red flags — then hold yourself to them while you date.
Free forever · Private to you · No ads, no selling your data
Peek at the flag list first →An AI coach interviews you, then turns your answers into your own green, yellow, and red flags.
Stages with date counts and guidelines so chemistry doesn't decide the timeline for you.
Debrief in chat right after. Later you read what happened, not what you wish happened.
You replay dates wondering what you missed
You ignore red flags when the chemistry feels good
You get attached quickly, then regret it later
You want to date with intention, not emotion
The problem isn't that you don't know better. It's that emotions take over in the moment.
Define your red, yellow, and green flags before you start dating
Log dates while they're still fresh, not rewritten later
Track patterns you usually overlook when emotions take over
Compare connections to see who actually makes you feel good
Build your green, yellow, and red flags with an AI coach that turns your answers into clear criteria.
A dating timeline with stages and guidelines you can edit to fit how you want to move.
Chat through what happened and get an honest, structured journal entry — not a rewritten memory.
Track people side by side against your own criteria instead of your mood that week.
Log how you're feeling over time so dating stays connected to your real life.
Analytics on your flags, dates, and feelings surface what keeps repeating.
Everything is behind your login. Your journal entries, flags, and reflections are only visible to you.
Your data is yours. Stored securely and never shown to other users.
No sharing or selling. We will never share your information with anyone.
Greenlights draws on tools used in therapy, journaling, and behavioral psychology to help you pause, reflect, and choose with clarity.
No ads, no selling your data, no paywall on your own reflections. A few dollars a month covers the cost of keeping it that way for everyone.